Do you remember that party song by Don Ho?
Everyone used to groan when it came on, but there was something to it…
Let me explain.
Here is the first verse:
In the wine
Make me happy
Make me feel fine.
While I am not disputing the potential positive effect of champagne on my level of happiness, I am also always looking for ways of how to get more joy and ‘feeling fine’ times happening independently of what I put into my body.
So, I am taking out the wine for now (sorry).
Make me happy
Make me feel fine.
You may wonder where I am going with this. How can tiny bubbles make me happy, make me feel fine?
We all know how stress and overwhelm are rampant, no end in sight. Suggestions are given on self-care, meditation, scheduling and many other possibilities to create some space, some room for regrouping and relaxation.
That is where the bubbles come in.
I have been experimenting a bit over the past year.
You may be familiar with the idea of creating an energetic bubble around your physical body. It’s not an aura, but a noticeable, imaginary, energetic space around you that has a boundary.
Imagine yourself inside a balloon. The walls of the balloon are stretchy and can expand and contract. Sometimes, the wall is quite tight and close to your physical body, and sometimes it may be so far out that you cannot find the boundary.
For our experimental purposes, imagine that boundary to be at about arm’s length away from your body.
Now feel or imagine yourself in that space. Notice your breath being free and relaxed, you being upright and strong and able to turn around in that space.
Compare that to the bubble being small, close to your body and become aware of the pressure on your chest, the sense of restriction and lack of mobility. Notice how quickly that can lead to a sense of stress and overwhelm.
So, let’s go back to being in the more expansive bubble.
Now imagine or feel that all the people you encounter in your day-to day- life are also in similar kinds of bubbles: family, friends, clients, co-workers and strangers. It creates a double boundary between them and you, allowing you to stay more easily in your own uprightness and maintain your spaciousness.
It offers them the same experience, reducing triggers, facilitating conversation and increasing acceptance. I find that I feel more relaxed, imagining them all to float around in their bubbles, and knowing that I have more freedom of choice and spaciousness in my interactions with them.
You can also apply this idea to life situations. Imagine events, trips and work all being contained in their own bubbles. Flow happens by putting your attention on the separate situations whenever the timing works for you, rather than feeling overwhelmed by all of them pressing in on you at once or with too much force.
I imagine all the tiny or- not so tiny- bubbles drift around my own bubble. When I put my attention on any one of them, it moves closer to my own, parks itself beside me. I can do my interactive piece and then let them go.
Sounds like fun?
Go and play!
(You can add the wine back in now – if you still need it…)
Let me know in your comments below how this topic resonates with you.
31481220 – abstract background with colored soap bubblesIf you find some challenges in creating this change in perspective for yourself, let’s have a conversation and explore how I can support you in making this happen.