What is it that makes your home a home?
I am curious.
Really.
In the last little while, quite a few clients have shared with me that they do not feel at home in their home. What does that mean?
Many of them have taken great care in putting everything together the “right “ way by painting, selecting and placing furniture and putting it together in a pleasing way and still, somehow they can’t connect. Others don’t even get that far and feel stymied at every corner about putting their home together in a way that is inviting and comfortable for them.
Different scenarios, but as I know from experience, the underlying reasons are much the same.
Have you ever given yourself some space and time to truly notice how you feel when you are in your home?
Just take a minute and check into each bullet point below by closing your eyes and imagining yourself in that scenario.
- Pretend that you are walking through the front door.
Notice your body. Does it feel open or closed?
Are you feeling tense or relaxed, tired or excited? Are you at peace or are thinking about all that needs to be done?
- Now walk through your space.
Where do you like to sit and spend time? Which areas do you seem to avoid?
- Do you have clutter and where is it?
- Is your bedroom restful or do you have trouble sleeping?
- Do you get your work done as planned or do you get easily distracted or are simply too tired to complete it?
Our schedules are so full, our lives are so hectic that often we do not take the time to check in with ourselves how we relate to and feel in our home on more than a superficial level.
However, homes are just like people and have a certain personality. Just like you can be attracted to certain people without really knowing why, you can walk into a space and love it immediately. The opposite is true as well. You walk into certain houses and do not care for them. Interestingly enough, this has nothing to do with the price, layout or furniture.
It is all about relationship.
The personality of our homes is determined by earth energies (underground water, fault lines etc.), people energies and electromagnetic radiation (power lines, phones etc.). These patterns interact with our people personalities and create a unique relationship with each other.
As you can see, there is a lot more going on behind the scenes than you may have been aware of. The particular energy pattern of your space will influence how you feel, work and live in your home. It affects your levels of stress and thereby your health. It influences you’re your relationships and ability to work and thereby your finances.
It is powerful!
One indicator that this relationship may need some attention is the awareness of feeling unsettled, not quite in resonance with the space. There are many others, of course, like lack of productivity, sleep problems and clutter issues to name a few common ones.
Once you have that awareness, what do you do with it?
In any relationship you want to be a good listener, and it’s no different here.
When you start paying attention to the questions I asked earlier during the visualization exercise, you can begin to create a different type of relationship with your home.
Home is all about building relationship: with the people in your life as well as the physical space you are in.
Ask yourself:
What does my home want from me?
What do I want from my home?
Listen.
Act on it.
Let me know in your comments below how this topic resonates with you.
If you find some challenges in creating this change in perspective for yourself, let’s have a conversation and explore how I can support you in making this happen.